How To Stop Premature Ejaculation

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How To Stop Premature Ejaculation

If you have a premature ejaculation issue, you have probably noticed how it can cause psychological issues too. I’ve met with many guys in my clinic who have told me about how premature ejaculation affects their sex life disastrously and can cause serious relationship problems. 

If you’re lucky, you have a sexual partner who is understanding and gentle with you. If you’re not so lucky, your partner may regard your sexual dysfunction as you not being that into them. This can have a devastating effect on a long-term relationship and has been the cause of a few breakups that I am aware of.

Erectile dysfunction of any type can have a significant effect on your self-esteem. Early ejaculation can cause you frustration and self-directed anger. In many cases of premature ejaculation, the most common sexual problem that happens as a “knock-on” effect is avoidance. 

Guys with this problem simply avoid sex because that’s their way of avoiding emotional pain. Emotional issues caused by this condition tend to take you further away from a solution and give you even more performance anxiety.

In this article, we’ll discuss:

  • What premature ejaculation is and how to know if you are suffering from it
  • The causes of rapid ejaculation
  • We’ll talk about the management of premature ejaculation and what you can do to help yourself
  • You’ll find an explanation of various techniques that may improve your ejaculation problems
  • Self-hypnosis for premature ejaculation – we’ll discover if hypnosis can help you to delay ejaculation and last longer during sexual activity

Definition Of Premature Ejaculation

If you’ve ever wondered “what’s premature ejaculation”, or what does premature ejaculation mean here’s a really good definition of it.

“Premature ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates sooner during sexual intercourse than he or his partner would like”

Source: Mayo Clinic

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Self-Hypnosis Audio For Premature Ejaculation

Self-hypnosis can be a great tool to reduce anxiety and install positive expectations about your performance. 

How Long Should A Man Last Before Ejaculating?

The average time that guys can expect to last during sexual intercourse is five to ten minutes and for most guys, this is perfectly fine. For these guys, sexual relations seem perfectly normal and they never think that they have an issue. Typically, it’s only a problem if either sexual partner feels unsatisfied by the duration of sexual intercourse.

I’ve had some guys come to see me who would last five minutes and are embarrassed by that. I have other guys who would kill to last for five minutes. In these cases, typically, they might just last twenty or thirty seconds before ejaculating. This is one of those conditions where it’s not a problem until it’s a problem. 

Premature Ejaculation Signs

  • Ejaculating very quickly after being aroused, maybe even before penetration happens
  • Even if you succeed at penetrating, being unable to last longer than one minute before ejaculating

There are two main types of premature ejaculation

  • Lifelong – in other words, it’s been there always, right from your very first sexual encounter
  • Acquired – this normally tends to happen after a traumatic sexual experience and because it happened once, you can begin to worry about it happening again which then makes it happen again.

For people with a lifelong problem, it would be advised to visit a doctor or urologist for specialist advice.

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Self-Hypnosis Audio For Premature Ejaculation

Self-hypnosis can be a great tool to reduce anxiety and install positive expectations about your performance. 

What Causes Quick Ejaculation?

The primary cause of premature ejaculation is anxiety. Many men will talk about the link between premature ejaculation and anxiety and will speak about being anxious about sexual encounters. There are many reasons for anxiety about sexual performance

  • Inexperience – if it’s your first sexual encounter, or if you haven’t had many sexual partners, or if you haven’t had sex in a long time.
  • Negative Comparison – eg “What I don’t measure up the performance of the last guy?”
  • Negative Beliefs About Sex – religious beliefs that make you feel you are doing something wrong or beliefs you picked up from parents or from society about sex.
  • Fear Of Failure – some people regard anything less than perfect performance as a failure
  • Fear Of Embarrassment – sex is an intensely personal thing
  • Overthinking – if you are in the habit of overthinking everything, then it’s difficult not to do it about sex also which of course can cause anxiety
  • Recreational Drug Use: “Men with a history of drug use are more likely to suffer from premature ejaculation” – this is a quote from a study on the effects of drug use on premature ejaculation amongst Spanish drug addicts.

There are, of course, other things that can cause premature ejaculation like depression, past sexual abuse, poor self/body image, stress in your current relationship or even trying for a baby.

Can Premature Ejaculation Be Cured?

In most cases, the answer is yes! I hear you breathing a sigh of relief as I’ve said that! When it comes to premature ejaculation which is mainly caused by psychological factors, you must be willing to change your thinking style and your beliefs around sex. This requires several things from you:

  • Desire to change
  • Commitment to practicing certain behavioral techniques
  • Listening to a self-hypnosis for premature ejaculation recording every day for at least thirty days.
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Self-Hypnosis Audio For Premature Ejaculation

Self-hypnosis can be a great tool to reduce anxiety and install positive expectations about your performance. 

How Can I Stop Premature Ejaculation

If you are wondering how to stop premature ejaculation, have a look at all of the causes listed above. Close your eyes for a moment (if it’s safe to do so) and imagine how you would be thinking if you were cool calm and confident about sexual intercourse. I’m guessing the following would be true

  • Looking Forward To It – you’d be looking forward to it, and you’d probably hear your internal voice saying “Bring it on!”
  • Embarrassment Wouldn’t Even Enter Your Mind – you’d feel so confident in your body’s ability to perform you’d probably even laugh if anyone said “Would you be embarrassed?”
  • Flooded With Success Thoughts – you’d imagine sex would last quite a long time and that you’d be totally up for it. Thoughts of failure would seem ridiculous – they’d never even enter your mind.
  • Sex Is Great – you’d have no hangups about sex. It would be regarded as natural and great fun.
  • You’d Feel Like You’re The Best – you’d have an unspoken belief that any other guy out there would be lucky if he could keep up with you in the bedroom.

All of these are just beliefs, not facts. So to help you to change those beliefs, you may need to talk to a sex therapist or if you’d prefer, you can listen to my self-hypnosis recording and change those beliefs for yourself.

How Can I Delay My Ejaculation Naturally?

One of the oldest known methods of delaying ejaculation is to masturbate within two hours before having sex. This can help reduce sensitivity as it normally takes longer to ejaculate the second time around. 

Many guys believe that you can only ejaculate once but this is incorrect. Most guys are capable of ejaculation several times. A typical experience is where it becomes more difficult to ejaculate each time, meaning that by the second or third time, you should be lasting much longer than the first time.

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What Is The Squeeze Method?

The squeeze technique is quite easy to perform. By doing this regularly, you will train your body to pause in the lead-up to ejaculation and enjoy longer sexual intercourse before ejaculation.

During sexual stimulation, when you feel like you could ejaculate soon, using your thumb and first finger, squeeze your penis just at that point where the head of the penis joins with the main shaft of the penis. If you’re not sure where this is, just look for where the foreskin joins with the main shaft of the penis. Squeeze there for a couple of seconds until the urge to ejaculate fades. You could also ask your partner to do this for you and make it a fun part of your sexual activity.

What Is The Stop-Start Technique?

The stop-start method is quite simple too. You can do this during masturbation or during actual sexual intercourse with your partner. If you find this to be awkward or embarrassing to do with your partner, then maybe start doing it while masturbating. It can take several months of regular practice for this to have a noticeable effect. 

To do the stop-start method, simply stop any stimulation of the penis either by hand or penetration at the moment you feel that you are beginning to build towards ejaculation. Wait five seconds and then continue. When you feel the urge to ejaculate building again, stop once more for five seconds. Keep doing this over and over again until your body gets the hang of not ejaculating too quickly.

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Self-Hypnosis Audio For Premature Ejaculation

Self-hypnosis can be a great tool to reduce anxiety and install positive expectations about your performance. 

Does Viagra Make You Last Longer?

Some people believe that Viagra can make you last longer. That’s not quite true. It can, however, improve your “refractory period”. That’s the set time after you ejaculate until you are ready to go again. I regularly ask my PE clients about this by saying “How long until you’re ready to go again?”. Typically, I’ll get blank stares followed by “What do you mean?”. It never enters the mind of most guys suffering from PE that they could go again.

Typically, when a guy prematurely ejaculates, he never even considers that a second time is possible. A lot of guys with PE will just give up right there and think that it’s all over. Typically, inside their heads, they start criticizing themselves, calling themselves a failure. In this way, they miss out on potential sexual satisfaction during round 2 and simply end up making a bad situation even worse. This is a major factor in many relationship issues as their sexual partner

Can Premature Ejaculation Get You Pregnant?

The simple answer is “yes”. Long before a guy ejaculates, there is a liquid that oozes in small amounts from the penis called pre-ejaculate. This contains thousands of sperm. So even if you penetrate for 30 seconds and then ejaculate, that can be enough to cause pregnancy. Here is a premature ejaculation story for you to think about

  • A guy and girl (let’s call them Gary and Sarah just to protect their anonymity), were fooling around and having some foreplay. She gave him oral sex (a blowjob) which was over quite quickly because he prematurely ejaculated. He then kissed her passionately and then proceeded to go down on her (which she enjoyed for about ten minutes). They never actually had full sexual intercourse but nine months later Sarah gave birth to a baby girl.
  • Mark and Chloe were just making out in the back of his car when she gave him a hand job. He prematurely ejaculated and it was all over her hand which she cleaned with a tissue but a little later when she was in bed Chloe closed her eyes and started dreaming about what had happened earlier and started touching herself. Nine months later, she had a baby boy.

These are true stories (names are changed to protect the identities of the individuals involved.). So even though the premature ejaculation wasn’t satisfying for the guys involved, it still was enough to get their partners pregnant.

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Self-Hypnosis Audio For Premature Ejaculation

Self-hypnosis can be a great tool to reduce anxiety and install positive expectations about your performance. 

Solutions For Premature Ejaculation

Guys the world over are looking for the answer to how to stop premature ejaculation. The great news is that because it is primarily anxiety related there are some therapies that work really well for most cases.

  • Change In Sexual Behaviour – some guys have had really good success with masturbating an hour or two before intercourse so that it’s easier to delay your ejaculation
  • Condoms – there are thicker condoms you can buy which means you don’t feel the sensations of penetration as intensely. Think of it like this – more rubber, less sensation. There are also condoms specially designed for oversensitivity which contain a numbing agent much like a local anesthetic to reduce sensitivity and help you last longer.
  • Medications – in more severe cases, your doctor may decide on selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (anti-depressants), topical creams to calm down the ejaculatory reflex, anesthetic creams, or oral medications. Be aware that all medications have potential side effects so it is always best to discuss this with your doctor. Anti-depressants might seem like an odd thing to take but the known side effect of some anti-depressants is delayed ejaculation. If you are embarrassed by the idea of going to your own doctor, you can always make an appointment with an online doctor to discuss your sexual problems.
  • Kegel Exercises (Pelvic Floor Muscles Exercises) – it’s been found that practicing pelvic floor muscle exercises can help. I have a free download (above) that can show you what to do and how to do repetitions.
  • Hypnosis For Premature Ejaculation – this is the number one home remedy for premature ejaculation. Download my self-hypnosis audio called “Overcome Premature Ejaculation” and listen every day for thirty days – this will help change your mindset to one of calm confidence about sex rather than worry, overthinking, awkwardness, negative expectations, etc.

Foods To Cure Premature Ejaculation

Apparently, certain foods can help from the physical perspective of the problem

  • Bananas may help to increase your interest in sex and boost your testosterone levels
  • Carrots can help by increasing blood flow to your sexual organs 
  • Walnuts are a great source of antioxidants and omega-3

It’s my opinion that these cannot cure the anxiety aspect of the problem but, as they say, anything that helps!

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Self-Hypnosis Audio For Premature Ejaculation

Self-hypnosis can be a great tool to reduce anxiety and install positive expectations about your performance. 

Self Hypnosis For Premature Ejaculation

Listen to this self-hypnosis recording every day for at least thirty days. This recording has been scripted and voiced by one of the world’s leading Clinical Hypnotherapists, Paul J Hunter, so you are assured of the highest quality and standard of recording.

Over fifteen years of experience have gone into this powerful hypnosis audio and it will help

  • Feel more relaxed and positive in the lead-up to a sexual encounter
  • Stop self-criticising and self-blaming
  • End self-destructive, negative thoughts or internal self-talk

This Article Might Also Be Useful

I’ve come across many people who suffer from premature ejaculation. One of the common traits that I notice is a tendency to self-blame. I hear guys saying “What’s the matter with me?” or “I feel like I’m letting my partner down”.  

Perhaps the one thing that most guys who suffer from premature ejaculation definitely don’t do is self-love. So have a look at this article that’ll show you How To Practice Self Love

 

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